MATURITY BEFORE MARRIAGE
“Independence and self reliance are keys to man’s spiritual growth. Man cannot be an agent unto himself if he is not self reliant; if we increase our dependence, we will find an immediate decrease in our freedom to act” In human, development is in stages: infancy, adolescence and adulthood.
So, young people should understand that marriage means more than the physical union. It means that two people share everything they have, not only their bodies, and material possessions but also their thoughts, feelings, joy, suffering, hopes, fears, successes, and failures.
Though many guys and ladies dream of marriage, but are they all eligible to go into it? Certainly not. Marriage is not for the unprepared; it has been observed that many young people get involved in marriage immaturely as a result of peer imitations, economic reasons, parental pressures, fear of not getting the right partner; Friends, marriage is not for boys and girls, it is for prepared and matured minds. Being ripe for marriage is not just a matter of age but it is our personal actions and conduct that measures maturity.
Knowing fully well that marriage is not only commitment but a covenant with God;
Maturity before marriage can simply be treated in six major perspectives:
- *SPIRITUAL MATURITY:* Before you can into marriage, you must not be a babe spiritually, you need to have genuine experience of salvation; sanctification and being filled with the Holy Ghost is an added advantage. Know how the Lord speaks and leads His own and also understand deeply God’s principles on marriage, purity, love, , submission, leaving and cleaving, leadership and commitment
- *PHYSICAL MATURITY:* This involves age and appearance. Marriage is not for infant. It is for matured people who are strong enough to face the challenges of life and ready to accept responsibility for one’s action without passing the fault to another person
- *FINANCIAL MATURITY:* You need to have a regular source of income, financial intelligence and investment mentality. There are so many needs in marriage that love cannot meet.
- *EMOTIONAL MATURITY:*This is the ability to control your emotions, pride, anger, malice, resentment, bitterness and stress
- *SOCIAL & MORAL MATURITY:*Marriage is a friendly relationship that must be valued socially, morally and even mentally. You have to avoid isolation and become very lively and friendly to your spouse, be stable mentally to take right and reasonable decisions
- *VOCATIONAL MATURITY*: This means that you must have a stable paid job, which could be personal business or trade, government job. You must be an expert in doing something. If you know how to make love, you must know how to make money. You cannot love without giving, and you cannot give without earning.
Finally friends, Maxwell Neal commented that a "matured person has the capability to defer gratification and pleasures of the moment for the joy and happiness of the future"
TEMMYLOLUWA
“Independence and self reliance are keys to man’s spiritual growth. Man cannot be an agent unto himself if he is not self reliant; if we increase our dependence, we will find an immediate decrease in our freedom to act” In human, development is in stages: infancy, adolescence and adulthood.
So, young people should understand that marriage means more than the physical union. It means that two people share everything they have, not only their bodies, and material possessions but also their thoughts, feelings, joy, suffering, hopes, fears, successes, and failures.
Though many guys and ladies dream of marriage, but are they all eligible to go into it? Certainly not. Marriage is not for the unprepared; it has been observed that many young people get involved in marriage immaturely as a result of peer imitations, economic reasons, parental pressures, fear of not getting the right partner; Friends, marriage is not for boys and girls, it is for prepared and matured minds. Being ripe for marriage is not just a matter of age but it is our personal actions and conduct that measures maturity.
Knowing fully well that marriage is not only commitment but a covenant with God;
Maturity before marriage can simply be treated in six major perspectives:
- *SPIRITUAL MATURITY:* Before you can into marriage, you must not be a babe spiritually, you need to have genuine experience of salvation; sanctification and being filled with the Holy Ghost is an added advantage. Know how the Lord speaks and leads His own and also understand deeply God’s principles on marriage, purity, love, , submission, leaving and cleaving, leadership and commitment
- *PHYSICAL MATURITY:* This involves age and appearance. Marriage is not for infant. It is for matured people who are strong enough to face the challenges of life and ready to accept responsibility for one’s action without passing the fault to another person
- *FINANCIAL MATURITY:* You need to have a regular source of income, financial intelligence and investment mentality. There are so many needs in marriage that love cannot meet.
- *EMOTIONAL MATURITY:*This is the ability to control your emotions, pride, anger, malice, resentment, bitterness and stress
- *SOCIAL & MORAL MATURITY:*Marriage is a friendly relationship that must be valued socially, morally and even mentally. You have to avoid isolation and become very lively and friendly to your spouse, be stable mentally to take right and reasonable decisions
- *VOCATIONAL MATURITY*: This means that you must have a stable paid job, which could be personal business or trade, government job. You must be an expert in doing something. If you know how to make love, you must know how to make money. You cannot love without giving, and you cannot give without earning.
Finally friends, Maxwell Neal commented that a "matured person has the capability to defer gratification and pleasures of the moment for the joy and happiness of the future"
TEMMYLOLUWA
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